tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2252185812109535946.post3870249220989677849..comments2023-09-13T09:00:18.034-04:00Comments on Never Fading Wood: Compulsory Pre-nupsLilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06936698520817156276noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2252185812109535946.post-58341349217831680892010-11-28T17:32:59.854-05:002010-11-28T17:32:59.854-05:00Very nicce!Very nicce!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2252185812109535946.post-72871860958771931572007-11-05T16:47:00.001-05:002007-11-05T16:47:00.001-05:00I would agree, Athanasius. When my husband and I ...I would agree, Athanasius. When my husband and I were married (nearly twenty years ago) we were interviewed, signed an awesome book where we recorded answers to questions the priest asked us. I guess this is similar to the investigation you mentioned. We also had to have the banns published in the bulletin for three weeks running prior to nuptials. I don't think I ever see banns published anymore!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping in :-)<BR/>~LilyLilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06936698520817156276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2252185812109535946.post-25139366055709878932007-11-05T16:47:00.000-05:002007-11-05T16:47:00.000-05:00I would agree, Athanasius. When my husband and I ...I would agree, Athanasius. When my husband and I were married (nearly twenty years ago) we were interviewed, signed an awesome book where we recorded answers to questions the priest asked us. I guess this is similar to the investigation you mentioned. We also had to have the banns published in the bulletin for three weeks running prior to nuptials. I don't think I ever see banns published anymore!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping in :-)<BR/>~LilyLilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06936698520817156276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2252185812109535946.post-12985194780943557212007-11-05T15:01:00.000-05:002007-11-05T15:01:00.000-05:00Believe it or not, pre-Vatican II, priests used to...Believe it or not, pre-Vatican II, priests used to conduct an investigation of the spouses through family members and references to turn up details and create discussion between them of all these things. Then he would publish them in a parish directory. This was called "The publication of the marriage ban". In this fashion adjudicating disputes such as the validity of marriages are made simpler because a priest could head off the various problems before anything starts. Thus, I think returning to that situation where the priest knows you, he pursues an investigation of the spouses (and I'm not talking background checks), and publishes the marriage ban would accomplish many of these things without a system so prone to abuse as mandatory pre-nubs.Athanasiushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11857043218277004727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2252185812109535946.post-90184854382806756192007-10-30T16:17:00.000-04:002007-10-30T16:17:00.000-04:00Lily,I honestly can't believe how many people get ...Lily,<BR/><BR/>I honestly can't believe how many people get married without discussing these crucial issues. Example: a friend's friend is getting divorced because her husband wants her to be home with the children and she wants a PhD. Did they discuss it before getting married? Oh, but they were so in love! Who cares about petty details! <BR/><BR/>Legally binding contract or not, someone ought to drag engaged couples by the ears to talk about those things. To do that, we must encourage young people to use their heads when choosing a spouse and not to rely on "chemistry".Mrs. Anna Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15377583333000789903noreply@blogger.com